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Book Title: The Fringe Hours: Making Time for You|
The author of the book: Jessica N. Turner
Edition: Fleming H. Revell Company
Date of issue: February 17th 2015
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Reader ratings: 4.8
ISBN 13: 9781441246165
Format files: PDF
The size of the: 33.69 MB
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This book just didn't click for me. It is probably because I don't have any children, and if I do have children some day I'm pretty sure I'll have zero compunction about telling them to go fuck off because I want some alone-time. My (stay-at-home) mom I know had little problem with this, she used to just shut us outside for the morning and tell us to keep in sight of the windows. We were a bit disdainful of that rule anyway, and once I was deemed "old enough" my sister and I were allowed just go tromp around unobservable for hours in the wet Indiana woods, on the thinking that two children can probably look after each other or something. The 90s were the final days of wide cultural acceptance for free-range childrearing in America though, and they are unlikely to return. And I'm not immune to the cultural shift - I'd certainly never even dream to let a tween tootle around the Internet un-monitored like I was. But will my more hovering parenting really be better? I don't know.
What I'm getting at is that there's a bigger cultural problem lying as an undercurrent in the narrative of this book, which is that modern upper middle-class mothers who work full-time feel intense guilt for not spending every spare hour they have with their children. Which is a very natural mental friction to have happening when you think about it: because we have children growing ever more precious in the American consciousness, with the side evolution of mainstream stay-at-home mothers becoming ever more rare, and the evolution in American masculinities decidedly not keeping up. The book spends a lot of time trying not to assuage that guilt at its core, but coming at it from the side - taking time for yourself is good because it makes you a better wife and mother. Thaz some scary shit. It's unhealthy to take your primary identity from your children or your marriage, or really any external thing. I wanted to chant the Fight Club mantra at this book - you are not your job, you are not your kids, you are not your marriage, you are not your fucking khakis... While the titles "wife" and "mother" may be culturally synonymous with unending noble labor and sacrifice, you don't have to buy into it. If you want to spend your evening drinking box wine and scrapbooking while your house is filthy and your kids eat dinosaur chicken nuggets for dinner after a full day at their cut-rate daycare, just do it: other people may own most of your time, but you still own your own soul.
Also, this book is a Christian book, fair warning. It's labeled as one on Amazon but not on Goodreads or Netgalley, else I wouldn't have requested it. The Christian elements are fairly milquetoast and inoffensive, but do run right-of-center, if you hadn't guessed from the content above, but like one of the anonymous example women mentions American Girls or whatever that holy-roller version of Girls Scouts is called. So there's that.
But enough back of the napkin sociology. Can this book help you squeeze more out of your day? Well, maybe, maybe not. If you're the sort of person who has a bad habit of overextending yourself with social and volunteer commitments for your children, and you need someone to pitch to you why you deserve your own scraps of life, yes you will probably get something out of this. I was disappointed to discover that I am already apparently using my day to its fullest by the author's measures, I have no more time to spare. Tips like "keep a book in your purse so you can read when you're waiting at doctor's offices," are pretty useless to most people who don't just stare blankly into space most of the day. Who the hell doesn't keep a book in their purse? Nobody who enjoys reading I'm guessing. Sometimes I keep two books in my purse, in case the first one is bad or something.
I hope this is the right book for someone, some imaginary Christian mom of three who works an office job all day and just needs permission to go drink wine at a knitting circle one night a week and hear a few non-Spongebob laughs. I hope she gets that. But unfortunately just not a book for me.
I received a reviewer's copy of this book on Netgalley.
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Read information about the authorJessica N. Turner is the author of the Wall Street Journal best-selling book, The Fringe Hours: Making Time for You and founder of the popular lifestyle blog The Mom Creative. Additionally, she is an an award-winning marketing professional and freelance writer. She has been featured in numerous media outlets including The Today Show, O Magazine, Pregnancy & Newborn Magazine, Better Homes & Gardens and Inc.com. She and her husband, Matthew live with their three young children in Nashville, Tennessee.
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